If your partner eventually comes back, Mattenson says, get your anger out privately — for example, in a journal — so you’re able to discuss the relationship and your expectations for communication calmly and with an open heart. But if your partner keeps going no-contact, Mattenson says, it’s time to get out. “If you allow ghos…
By doing this in a journal and not communicating your feelings directly to your partner you’re setting a precedent that their behaviour is okay. Of course they’ll do it again. By being silent you are essentially saying “I don’t mind when you suddenly go AWOL on me, keep doing it.”
This is terrible advice. We need to be clear on setting our boundaries, our needs and expectations in our relationships. If you’re not, then you can’t expect change and you can’t get upset when someone treats you like you aren’t even worthy of a 5-second text response.